I wrote this as a comment on one of the blogs here... I have made a change or two, but its mostly same as I published. it is written as a response to something so if a line or two don't make sense, blame it on the fact that I didn't copy the background material...

 

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I don't claim to have the clarity of your thought or the brilliance of your expression. And I don't know too much about being a a girl wanting to be 'like boys', nor do I guarantee that what I write is going to make much sense. But I do know a thing or two about crying... and I offer my thoughts and experiences, all jumbled together.

It is only human to cry, I agree. But it is also human to not want others too see you cry. And it is also human to not want to cry (even if nobody else is around) becuase you think it makes you weak!

We all cry. Part of it is physical need, but more often than not, there is an emotional trigger. Some hit the trigger easily, and other don't.

I cry... of course. I probably have the worst emotional trigger... whenver I am in a position where I know I cannot do something without help, or permission. Or simply put, I cry when I have to ask someone for help! When I know I can't do anything about a situation on my own, or when I know that something that I wanted to do will not be done... help or not. The feeling of helplessness makes me want to cry. And sometimes... I do.

Am I comfortable crying... no. Do I feel releived after I'm done... sometimes. Is there anyone in front of whom I can cry and not feel bad... yes! One person... one friend... not parents... not siblings.... just a true friend! Once you find that person, your problem will be over!

Lest I speak too much in favour of crying... its not always a good thing to cry when you feel like it. I have been in a situation where I det myself too aggressive a goal... something that would cost me a lot of money and a year of my life if I failed.... and there came a time when I thought I would fail. At that moment of weakness... the time of helplessness... when the first tear came to my eye, I stopped! I know, if I had let go, I would have lost the cause.... lost my goal for good. Instead, I decided I would do whatever it took to acheive my target!

Moral of the long story... its okay to cry, but not always. If you have a good enough reason... go right ahead. And try to find the person who makes you feel comfortable crying (even if it is just because you feel sad) over their shoulder!